Polyamorous Relationship Agreement
From this unfortunate experience, I learned two important things about relationship agreements: I cannot and will not promise anything indefinitely with regard to affection, closeness or relational status. If the two can say without speaking more: « Oh, I can`t compromise or change, then, no matter how much you care for each other, this problem makes you incompatible with each other and you have to decide if you remove the aspect of the relationship to which this agreement applies (z.B. Be friends instead of having a romantic relationship, if the hierarchy is a prerequisite for one person and a dealbreaker for the other), if you « turn it off » until the incompatibility reaches a climax – knowing that it is there (knowing that there is a date when the relationship should be away and you do not do ldRs), or if you do not make LDRs), or if you realize that there is a date , where the relationship should be distant, and if it does not make LDRs), or if you do not), or if you profess an end (knowing that there is a date at which the relationship should be distant, and if it does not make LDR), or if you do not do ldRs), or if you profess an end (knowing, that there is a date when the relationship should be distant, and if it doesn`t make LDRs), or if you don`t, or if you do it put aside the whole relationship and not have it (it`s most often when it comes to a new relationship and something is discovered in an early conversation – that`s if the reciprocal installation is weak). I am totally blessed by two men as resistant as I am, probably even more so. Relationships are different in nature, but basically our main idea is that personal struggles for jealousy are rooted in insecurity and should be resolved in the first place by the person who experiences jealousy. This means that we do not limit ourselves to each other in a way that is not necessary. You will see that I framed all this as conversations between two people – between a dyad in a polyamorous network. That`s the plan. The same agreements and limitations could (and should) apply in carefully considered relationships. Each relationship is different, and each relationship within a network will have its own agreements. If you are the common factor in two or more different relationships, then you put your preferences and limits on the table in the discussions that fix these agreements with each of these partners, but they, as their own individuals, can have very different expectations and limitations that make your agreements with each different. I don`t expect all my partners to have better friends, but I have to recognize that I am in my life and at least a civil behavior towards each other, although ideally a form of friendship.
My absolute minimum is to be able to invite my partners to the same event. If there are conflicts between my partners, I either do not have to be involved as a mediator, or I will change dynamics or end a relationship. Below you will find the definition of the rule, agreement and approval. If you read all the definitions, I invite you to pay attention to how your body reacts to what you read. Note the sensations that arise in you, as well as the emotions and emotions that begin to stir; and finally, write down which thoughts, stories and/or images appear as the result of what you read. (For extra points, you should read it yourself or let someone read it to you). Every relationship is important, and every partner deserves the same politeness. This does not mean that each partner will have the same time or affection, but each relationship will have the same openness to growth and change. « Hello Marianna! What are the core values/principles/agreements you have in your relationship that have been helpful in making this work? I`m starting a polyamorous relationship and I want to know what works for you! I do not agree with the fact that #2 and #3 are only useful for poly relations with primary partners.